What a funny thing respect is..

Respect??

WTF?? what is respect???

as the definition says "A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements." And people show respect to those only, with whom they can benefit something. [something can be anything]

So, as an individual, we can never gain respect until we achieve something great.

We get respect only if we show something. Then i don't want that respect. If i accept it, i will loose my freedom of being my own in front of/among them. I am not rude.

Only people who want respect back, only will respect, because it was said "give respect and take respect".

If i respect someone, and if that someone wanted that to continue then, what he does is tries to know what i like and do the same when he/she is with me.

Buddy, i am not interested in respecting you and making u loose your freedom. And dont respect me and dont make me loose my freedom.

Ok so, what i should do?? what you should do??

Respect my word if it right to you, I will respect your words if they are right to me. I will identify you as my buddy, dude, frnd, brother, sister.. but not as a sir or Madam.

If i said that, then it is sarcastic.

Now where is the respect???

So my dear frnd, Dont respect someone, respect that someone's "words". Else, go fcuk in your world of overaction.

Specially in this world of global labour pool, respect is a funny thing you can never find.

hahahha... Respect..... In this field, Never. In this field, Respect is, only for a speculated period, i.e. only when ppl are depending on you.

My frnd, dont fight for respect, strive for food. Do your work, if somebody is rude then it is their fate. If somebody respects you, even that too is their fate. Earn some money, go home enjoy with your family and frnds. Thats it, nothing to worry about respect.

... and the purpose is....

We do many things in our day to day life.. did we ever introspect ourselves, whats the purpose?

My frnds did MS in US, some did Mtech in a local college. whats the purpose??

Is that to get a good job?? whats the instinct??

I am writing this blog, why?? whats the purpose??

Before i say my view on this, we shall see every item in detail...

People credit the purpose as instinct.. I have another question here, Is that valid?

I say "NO" Instinct?? whats your instinct, you cannot sleep because you are not pursuing MS/Phd/anything as such??

Do you know why flowers have colours though leaves of all plants have green leaves??

According to the psychology of non-living things, different flowers have different colours just to attract bees, that help in pollination. i.e. sex, which gives ultimate pleasure.

Happiness... Happiness.. Pleasure is leads to happiness. so buddy, the ultimate purpose is the pleasure.

Why do i do.. i find pleasure in doing that.:D

now the same question i've asked you in the first para.. Why did my frnd do M??S

the ultimate purpose is pleasure, but not the immediate. The immediate purpose may be anything..

We feel guilt, we might not feel sleep, though lying on the cot, because that ultimate purpose is not satisfying.

Eg: i could not crack some Exam, so what bugs me is, "Whats my future nnow?? who would respect me now?? what would others think about me?? am i a dumb?" That pulls off the pleasure. If i did that exam because my dad told, I am are least bothered about my score..but even then i feel tensed, just thinking "would my dad allow me to be in the house?? what would he impose upon me now? will i be asked what i want to do?"

even this pulls off the pleasure.

Put your interest in anything you do, then obviously you can feel the ultimate pleasure. But i dont say that this ultimate pleasure will be there every day. If you want this pleasure everyday, fight for it. strive for it..

YOU WILL GET IT!!!! God bless you

why should I tell you??

I used to wonder what lovers speak for long hours?? We meet some frnd, ask "whaaaatzzz up?" he says "nothing", and we "oh ok.. cools, so??" If the same person is asked by his girlfrnd, the same question, "whatsz up darling?" he would say " many things for you baby"..

well.. I am not interested in telling what are those personal things that run between lovers, but here, i want to focus on that particular limits defined by a person.

why that person is not able to speak much to frnds but to to his girlfrnd.. or one speaks more things to one set of frnds, than to some other (set of) frnds.?? what is that thing, which is limiting you to speak less to some ppl..??

hmm.... I would like to define that limit as a "Sync Point".. Everybody experiences this sync point.

when we meet a new person, in that first look, we try to understand, how this person would be and make frnds, during this process, we dont tell everything what ever happened in our life, or i say, we dont show them what actually we are to them. First what we do is, talk to them and by their actions we define how they accept you. That creates some belief. That level of belief is the point where we define the first "sync Point".

That level of belief we have on the other person defines the sync point. The level of belief increses by knowing the other person and hence the sync points increase, therefore the content we share to frnds increases.

The sync points are not defined by the compatibility, if two ppl are thinking alike, that doesn't mean they have belief on each other. So buddy, if the person whom you treat as your frnd is not sharing things with you.. butddy then understand that you could not create enough sync points. I will exemplify this thing.. if you are going to making a strategy how to complete some task.. or say, how to tackle your girlfrnd, or with some problem... or blindly i say, to whom you can say that you mastrubate.... that makes the difference. I dont think i am differentiating frnds and acquaintances....

P.S: Not always true with Love at first sight.. i dont believe that, currently i dont have any points on that. well, thats entirely another experience

Reason for Frustration in office

One of my teammates today said that she is angry..:@ ooh.. oo.oo.oo... I wanted to analyse why she is angry.. Then i've asked her the reason, she told "i dont know but i am angry."..

well, what are the reasons for anger and frustration in office. Motivation is one one of the reasons. According to Herlzberg's two factor motivation theory or dual factor theory i.e.motivators and Hygiene factors. Motivators are challenging work, recognition, responsibility that give positive satisfaction, arising from intrinsic conditions of the job itself, such as recognition, achievement, or personal growth

Hygiene factors (e.g. status, job security, salary, fringe benefits, work conditions) that do not give positive satisfaction, though dissatisfaction results from their absence. These are extrinsic to the work itself, and include aspects such as company policies, supervisory practices, or wages/salary.

Hygiene factors are needed to ensure an employee is not dissatisfied. Motivation factors are needed to motivate an employee to higher performance

Though these factors are satisfied, there is one thing that makes one very much angry and frustrated... want to know whats that??

That item is nothing other than BOSS... Owner of one of the MNC says "Boss is the reason for every resignations"

Boss is none other than your Manager....

So what did your Boss/Manager do??

I know, you are very much talented, you are Hero of the task you are dealing with. But your manager/Boss says, "why are you taking this much time to complete this task??" or behave rude just because you are not able to complete the task in the stipulated time which he/she expects. Well my question is for the manager/boss.. who asked you to assume that the task would take that amount of time??? of course, you and I know that you have no knowledge on the task. I have a simple justification to ask this question, you've worked in my designation 5-6 years back and now the technology is developed and you dont have any knowledge on what i am dealing with and you've got a roll change just because you are able to manage ppl.. OK I dont want to go off the drive.

A note to all the Managers/Bosses... Hello dude, i know you are good at managing your resources, i know some managers who still code/do QA activites for the team, but buddy dont promise your clients untill you talk to your subodinates... Dude, please understand the technical problems, be broad minded.

Note: I am not talking about lazy employees. Dear Employee show somw zeal, your manager will obvoiusly show some curtesy atleast.

I am not talking about those managers/Boss who have more technical knowledge than the subordinates.. If you have, please train your subordinates.

I am not talking about those subordinates who are dont want to take responsibility.. well, dude! why are you doing your job, if you dont want to take the responsibility of what you've agreed to do?

I am talking about those employees who have zeal to work, and have technical knowledge than their managers/Boss.

PS: I have the best managers. Both are too good. They are awesome.

How we describe others?.. Attribution

Hiiiii... I had a conversation with many ppl who are explaining how other teammates/friends are.. From those small talks, i got an idea to post this.

The post is about, how people attribute others to certain adjectives, and how far they are true?? Before talking about that, we shall learn why people want to estimate others personality

so, Why do we estimate others? Here is what i say, we try to understand others, when we live/be with them, till the time we are with them (mostly). As an active perceiver of the events, the average person continuously and spontaneously makes causal inferences on why the events occur.Eventually, these inferences become beliefs or expectations that allow the person to predict and understand the events that they observe and experience. When an internal attribution is made, the cause of the given behavior is assigned to the individual's personality, attitudes, character or disposition. When an external attribution is made, the cause of the given behavior is assigned to the situation in which the behavior was seen (that the individual producing the behavior did so because of the surrounding environment or the social situation). one can determine how others will affect one's personal life

Now coming back to the point, how people attribute others to certain adjectives, and how far they are true?? For example... people start smoking,during teenage, that is to show to their friends, that they are mature enough, thats how social expectations move... and now If I like smoking and drinking, untill the other person (who don smoke/drink) shows enough activity in something other which is out of my scope of thinking, i estimate him/her as immature (this is just an example of how we understand others). how far this is true??

Another instance, if we try to determine personality of the other person we see them in the dimension in which we are already in... If we can understand that someone is show off kinda.. then you need to understand that at one point of your life, you've showed off.

==================== It is believed that a happy person is also friendly, or that quiet people are shy.someone who is considered unpredictable is also dangerous or someone who speaks slowly is slow-witted. people who are irritable may be seen as in disarray in their daily life ============

When we try to understand his/her acts, we try to determine others comparing to our likes and dislikes. At times, we think that someone is selfish/jelous/ or some other adjective defining someone's personality. So, now you should understand that those adjectives you've thrown at others are once (or currently) define you in someway. Attributing others should not be done immediatly after looking at some event happened, but before we do so, we need to study the situation, and the person's previous experience and effects that the person take to himself after that event.