why should I tell you??

I used to wonder what lovers speak for long hours?? We meet some frnd, ask "whaaaatzzz up?" he says "nothing", and we "oh ok.. cools, so??" If the same person is asked by his girlfrnd, the same question, "whatsz up darling?" he would say " many things for you baby"..

well.. I am not interested in telling what are those personal things that run between lovers, but here, i want to focus on that particular limits defined by a person.

why that person is not able to speak much to frnds but to to his girlfrnd.. or one speaks more things to one set of frnds, than to some other (set of) frnds.?? what is that thing, which is limiting you to speak less to some ppl..??

hmm.... I would like to define that limit as a "Sync Point".. Everybody experiences this sync point.

when we meet a new person, in that first look, we try to understand, how this person would be and make frnds, during this process, we dont tell everything what ever happened in our life, or i say, we dont show them what actually we are to them. First what we do is, talk to them and by their actions we define how they accept you. That creates some belief. That level of belief is the point where we define the first "sync Point".

That level of belief we have on the other person defines the sync point. The level of belief increses by knowing the other person and hence the sync points increase, therefore the content we share to frnds increases.

The sync points are not defined by the compatibility, if two ppl are thinking alike, that doesn't mean they have belief on each other. So buddy, if the person whom you treat as your frnd is not sharing things with you.. butddy then understand that you could not create enough sync points. I will exemplify this thing.. if you are going to making a strategy how to complete some task.. or say, how to tackle your girlfrnd, or with some problem... or blindly i say, to whom you can say that you mastrubate.... that makes the difference. I dont think i am differentiating frnds and acquaintances....

P.S: Not always true with Love at first sight.. i dont believe that, currently i dont have any points on that. well, thats entirely another experience